Your identity, the things you are known for, your typical behavior have all been fixes… solution to some perceived problem and now you are like a puppet on a string… powerless, inauthentic, and incapable of being happy, peaceful, joyful, and fulfilled.
… or not f… it up… Same thing. both result in no peace, no joy, no good results.
Why would you have that expectation?
Given the reaction you have to that expectation, given the reaction you have to that sentence, devastation when you actually do f… something up, suggests, that you expect yourself to go through life never making a mistake… i.e. Perfection.
You are not alone. Some people give their whole life to that “not”… to that unreality… and suffer, become total underachievers, and altogether unpleasant people no one really wants around.
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Emotional Intelligence is a buzz word, an expression, that no one explains, and yet, everyone pretends that they know what they are talking about.
No such THING as emotional intelligence… it is made up.
And yet: some people maneuver life better than others, have less upsets, upheavals, self-hate, than others.
They take obstacles differently than others. They are OK with themselves, and they don’t worry about what other people think about them. They are not attention, approval, drama seekers. They just do what they do… and let others do what others do.
Quite a few of my students and clients are in this predicament, I even found myself feeling starved for “companionship”… for someone to hear what I have to say.
What is this about?
The answer, the elegant answer comes from a movie, Shall We Dance? where Susan Sarandon hires a private detective to find out what her husband does every Thursday night, and why he is acting so different.
The private detective asks why Susan Sarandon’s character married this guy.
I had an important and eye-opening insight today. A looking back…
Let me tell you the story so you get the fact that the likelihood of me ever discovering this was between none and zero.
It began some 30 years ago when I was a magazine publisher. Every time a magazine was already in the street, I went to my computer and cleaned up the space, I archived everything that was said and done, made room for the new issue. I did the same thing in the office.
I called this time and energy consuming step “cleaning from the root”, or alternatively “preparing for a new harvest”…
My life was organized, orderly, I was thin, vibrant, beautiful, and OK.
Growth feels good… People who grow experience being fully in life, in a dance with life…
Growth feels good… and yet, most of the people I know are either stagnating because they don’t put themselves in a situation where they need to grow, or they put themselves in the courses and seminars and coaching programs to grow, but they don’t grow because …
Well, what comes after that “because” is what this article is about.
I participated in Landmark Education for 26 years, and went from seminar to seminar, from course to course, from training program to training program. Without any break, without any time given myself to even know what the heck I learned.
In any 3-year period I did 20 programs, including seminars, coaching programs, coaching in programs, courses… In another 3-year period I did only 3. What happened?
In the partner calls of the Playground course, some people are in a hurry to get through…
How you do anything is how you do everything… they are in a hurry to get through life to get to the good stuff.
They are missing life, they are missing the partner call and benefits it can give them: getting present to the invisible.
What is invisible for you now becomes visible when you slow down.
Unfortunately to all of us, today’s lifestyle with the movies that have quick cuts, with social media, with fast cars, slowing down feels counter intuitive, so we take pride in being fast… and faster.
But being fast makes you miss everything.
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I have been looking at biological age as an overall indicator of how a person is doing health-wise.
At this point, please forgive me, I am more interested in myself, my own health than in yours. Selfish? Yeah. Selfless? yeah.
How can it be both selfish and selfless?
I am interested in getting a second lease on life, so I can do more of what I’ve been doing: pump Source for solutions for you, for your health, for your peace of mind, for your fulfillment, for you becoming all you can become.
So if I didn’t have you as a “client”… I would not be interested in extending my life either. So thank you… very much.
I had my usual Sunday call today… and the issue of how old is your body came up. My friend’s body is 90 years old… and though I am only four or five yours younger, my body checks as a 50 year old…
As I have shared before, some time in the beginning of August I realized that I was dying.
It had been a process that started a year earlier… with some dramatic happenings, including falling and breaking my left arm. It wasn’t the cause: it was a symptom. And by this August the future was obvious: I had a short time to live, with very restricted movement…
I have no health insurance, I trust in no doctors, I have no savings, I have no family to bail me out.