Small thinking always indicates a small life, small opportunities, low vibration.

But it’s so “normal” to be a small thinker, that many people think they are big thinkers because they have big pie-in-the-sky desires.

What is a pie-in-the-sky desire? It is an end goal to which there is no ladder and there is no intention to build one.

One of the things I measure in the Starting Point Measurements is the size of your desire vs. the size of your ambition.

People with sky high desire entertain pie in the sky goals.

The easiest “test” to find out is to ask them to do the skill-finder process from the book “What Color is Your Parachute” that has been published, I guess, for 50 years? OK… I just checked, for 49 years.

That means you can find used copies of the book: that section hasn’t changed much… maybe a little with the introduction of computers.
How does the skill test go?
In any project your actions belie the underlying skills, the ability to do something. Flip a pancake, change a diaper, dig a hole in the garden, convince a cop to not give you a ticket, hold your tongue until it is time to speak, accept support, speak when afraid, listen well, prepare a meal plan, follow a recipe to a T, make the same recipe with a different ingredient and make it still good.

There are thousands of skills. Each need to be learned to be able to use them successfully.

The skill finding process asks you to write up seven incidents/stories/projects where you used skills, the project was successful, and you enjoyed the process, not just the result.

The words that communicate a skill are “what YOU DID”, and HOW you did what you did. So when you attend a class, for example, what they taught isn’t telling anyone what you did, only saying what YOU did will do that.

By age 18 I could have written 40 of those stories… but most of my clients can’t come up with more than three.

There are some exceptions… but not many. The idea of an action isn’t an action. The trying an action isn’t an action. Only an action is an action. And for the purposes of this exercise, only successful action is an action.

Why is this a good test? It’s great because it shows you the lack of the ladder to reach your lofty goals…
But the second reason it’s good because now you actually know how to build the ladder.
And the third reason: the instructions say: only successful projects where you enjoyed what you needed to do to bring it to completion can be used. The fun part…

How, you ask? I’ll tell you.

Create projects, and take them home.

I have an average 3-4 projects going on at any one time.

Get a new computer, set it up, transfer the old stuff on it, repair the computer desk, clean up under it, discard the old computer responsibly… that is one project, not six…

A project can be fast… or it can take work over months.

The project of getting another 10 active years of living is going to take 10 years… because it is not only getting well, it is also staying well, and making it worth being alive… even
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